Dream part 2

Written by jamie on August 15th, 2011

One of my residents is a famous musician. Literally. He’s a saxophonist that has played with the likes of Glenn Miller. Pretty cool. He likes to practice every afternoon and if you walk through the building you can hear the sounds of his soulful melodies drifting through the air.

He found out that I’m also a musician and I think we have a special bond now. Our company is in the process of a name change; eventually our name will be Allegro. He knew that this was a musical term but couldn’t remember exactly what it meant. So he came to me. I couldn’t remember either. Google to the rescue.

Allegro is “lively and quick.” We talked about that, and he looked at the design of the logo and commented that it was kind of lame (not in those exact words). He felt that if they were going to incorporate a musical term into their name, the logo should reflect that.

Then his eyes lit up and you could see the lightbulb over his head.

“We should write a song about the new name!”

I could feel that fake smile begin to plaster across my face. “Oh, what a good idea!” was what came out of my mouth. “I don’t have time for that!” was what was in my brain. I looked at my overflowing desk that I can never seem to get cleared off.

Then I remembered the second part of my dream.

Songwriting. I have dabbled in this for years and have had dreams of writing life changing songs. In reading through old journals, I have seen lots of attempts at lyrics. I love the thought of taking a frustrating or joyous feeling and making it fit into the confines of a three to four minute song. Often feelings that I can’t put to words are expressed beautifully by a song someone else has written. I feel I can deal with those feelings so much easier once it’s in song form. I want to write songs like that; songs where people say, “THAT’S what I’ve been feeling. I haven’t been able to put my finger on it, but that’s it right there.”

I have co-written a couple of songs with a friend, and have recordings of some of them. I’ve heard positive feedback on them. I have not attempted yet to write a complete song on my own, and that’s my ultimate goal. I could totally suck at it. But I know I need to give it a shot. One thing Quitter talks about is giving yourself freedom to fail miserably. And fail in a way that people are still blessed through it. I want to write songs that might possibly be crappy. Heck, my first attempts will be crappy. I can almost guarantee it. Cheeseball, here we come.

Quitter talks of giving yourself fake deadlines to help push you forward. I think perhaps I need to do that with this songwriting thing. Give myself a week or so to write a song. Any song. It may have roses are red lyrics and a melody similar to Mary Had a Little Lamb and will probably be in the key of D (the easiest key for me on guitar… I capo almost everything to this key). That’s okay. I need to start somewhere. Drew told me to write a song about how hard it is to write a song. This might be a good place to start.

As I stood there in my office with my musically inclined resident, it hit me that this might be a way to find things about my day job that incorporate with my dream job. Maybe writing a song with my resident will be a good way to get my brain moving. Maybe it will inspire me to write more. Chances are he’ll forget about it anyway, but I really shouldn’t dismiss it right away.

 

So what is this dream that you speak of?

Written by jamie on August 8th, 2011

I’m so glad that Jon Acuff dedicated an entire chapter in his book and an entire section in his conference to figuring out what your dream is. I was also relieved to find out I wasn’t the only one without a clearly defined dream. As I’ve been digging and searching, it seems my dream has three parts. Here’s part one.

One of the greatest quotes from the book is that finding your dream is “an act of recovery, not discovery.” It involves digging into your past and rediscovering those things that you’re passionate about. Don’t ask, “What do I want to do with my life?” Ask, “What have I done in my life that I loved?” Asking that question makes it all seem a little less daunting.

Asking that question of myself always brings up one answer; usually immediately. Singing. That’s the answer I came to when I decided to switch majors in college. It’s why I settled on music. I wasn’t entirely sure what I could do with a music degree, but I knew I loved singing.

I have had several people ask me throughout my life why I’m not a professional singer. I am greatly flattered by this question and quite honestly floored that people think I have what it takes to be a professional singer. My answer is usually something to the effect of; don’t know where to get started, there’s so much competition, blah blah blah. It’s an overwhelming thought. How would I even go about that? The thought of auditions and rejection are almost too much to take.

After singing a solo at a Christmas Eve service one year, a friend leaned over to Drew and said, “She could pay the bills with that voice!” Drew’s response?

“She hasn’t yet.”

So true. But it makes me wonder why I haven’t. I think it’s time to start trying.

I think another thing that has made me feel “stuck” is that I don’t want to be the next American Idol. I really don’t enjoy being in the spotlight. I am an introvert that prefers to hide in the shadows. (I’ll be honest… I do love the high of performing and receiving compliments.) I am not looking to be famous and on the road all the time. I just know that I love singing and have heard that people are blessed through it. So I want to figure out something with that.

So where do I start? I think for the moment I need to reacquaint myself with my voice. I’ll be honest. I can’t remember the last time I spent doing a really good vocal warm-up. That makes all the difference. I can tell that my voice is not up to what it could be. I sing and I can feel the scratchiness of my throat; I can hear my voice struggle between registers; and that high G that used to come so easy is a bit of a stretch now. What I find funny is how people compliment me on how well I sing when I notice all these things. I think, “Wow, I suck.” They hear beautiful music. How much better could I be if I really try?

My immediate, attainable goal is to spend at least a few mornings a week doing vocalises. Heck, I don’t even need to carve out special time for this. I can do it in the shower. Here we go… Mee-ahhh…

 

And the high wears off…

Written by jamie on August 3rd, 2011

This dream pursuing thing gets hard.

As I knew would happen, the Quitter Conference high is wearing off. I just didn’t think it would happen so quickly. Monday hit and the blahs were back. I found myself shaking off some weird dream that left me feeling icky and disoriented. Coffee helped, but I was still in a fog.

I threw on my favorite pair of sweats and the Quitter t-shirt. I was desperate for any little ounce of energy that might still be clinging to it. I googled “Quitter Conference” to see if there was any follow-up from people that had also attended. I was desperate for contact with a fellow Quitter, hoping to find that I wasn’t the only one that was already feeling hopeless. All that came up was outdated information about the conference. There was talk of forming some kind of online post conference forum, but I haven’t found it yet. I can hear the crickets echo through the internet.

So begins the hard task of pushing through and doing even when I don’t feel like it.

The thing that frustrates me more than my own laziness or lack of motivation is when outside elements creep in and make it more difficult for me to continue pursuing. On Monday evening, I was trying to come up with some task I could do that fit my current energy level (I think there’s a whole post to be written on that topic alone) and I came up blank. I think I was exhausted from the sixteen hours spent in the car over the weekend, a long mundane Monday, and hormones. I decided my best bet was to go to bed early, get a good night’s sleep, and try again in the morning, refreshed and ready to go.

Then the phone rang. And I had to deal with something that kept me up for another hour and a half. And then I was frustrated that I didn’t get to sleep earlier and had a harder time falling asleep.

What do you do when things that are out of your control prevent you and rob you of time you so desperately want to pursue something you love? Right now my current solution is get really pissed off, but I don’t think that’s working so well for me.

There’s also been drama. Drama from work, drama from church… drama, drama, drama. I’m tired. I didn’t get my “down” day this week, so I think I’m just trying to keep up right now. This morning I did not succeed in getting up early and now have about 10 minutes of dream time. Go me.

I am trying to cut myself a little slack and remember that just because one day (or two or three) don’t go as I planned, doesn’t mean that my dream is lost down the drain. I will push on and continue. With coffee in hand.

 

Quitter Conference

Written by jamie on August 1st, 2011

This weekend I had the opportunity to attend the Quitter Conference in Nashville. I was super excited about this event and it did not disappoint. I was afraid it might just be a glorified rehashing of the Quitter book, but it wasn’t. There was more detail, more meat, and more ideas. I walked out the door on a high and ready to throw myself whole-heartedly into my dream.

I am still processing, still answering workbook questions, and still working on my plan. The conference made me realize how important it is to have a plan and not just pursue your dream aimlessly. I have some really good ideas on how to move forward but just need to sit down and write them out and organize them in my brain.

One thing the conference addressed was social media. Jon spoke of blogs and gave good ideas on how to use them. Blogs can create community, support and a practice space to work on your dream. I hope to take this blog and use it for those purposes.

Some of the blogging tips Jon offered were:

Set the right pace for your blog. How many times a week will you commit to writing your blog?

I set a blogging goal a little over a year ago of blogging three times a week and followed through for awhile. I attempted to resurrect this in recent weeks and discovered that it’s just not a realistic goal for this point in my dream pursuing. So, in an attempt to not overachieve and be crushed at my inability to follow through, I’m going to make a goal of writing once a week. Not only that, I will post the same day each week. For now, I will post on Mondays. If I find that I have more time and more content, I will up that goal. For now, it’s time to start small and achieve.

Build a smart social contract. What are the expectations your readers already have? If you are going to build a blog, how can you set clear expectations for your future readers?

This is one I feel I am currently not doing well at. I intend to brainstorm and come back to it. I’m not sure what expectations my few readers have.

Choose which type of blog you’re going to be. There are three types of blogs: Share a passion, share ideas, or share a life.

This is another one that I need work on. I tend to just ramble and write about whatever strikes my fancy. However, most posts have to do with my life, so currently I am closest to a life blog. I need to either refine that or decide if I should take this in a different direction.

There are more blogging tips, but for now, I’m starting with those. Stay tuned for further insights.

I hope to chronicle my dream progress in this blog. Thanks for coming along for the ride.