Ugh

Written by drew on January 15th, 2009

Well, believe it or not, I still exist. It has been almost forever since I’ve written a post on here. I am alive and have tons that I need to write, but I’m not sure how much of that writing will end up on the public page. I’m processing a lot right now and haven’t made the time I need to sort through it. Typically how my ADD life goes is that all these tasks stack up, and the whole pile it too overwhelming to deal with, so I either throw it all away or just leave it and pretend it isn’t there. So, the books say break the task into bite-sized pieces and then do one at a time.

Here are the things I need to write about. Maybe I’ll cross them off as I complete them.

Nicaragua stories

Church politics

Christmas

Layoffs

The Palm Pre (can’t get here too soon)

Step 10.

 

Okay, that’ll keep me busy through summer. Jamie and I are trying to set aside time each Sunday to go to a park and be creative, so I hope to write some and work on jokes for a future comedy show. Getting into the other side of my brain is fun and a way to relax. In an odd way, so is cleaning while listening to music. It works out the spatial relations and movement parts of my brain that just sit dormant when I’m working on a computer and trying to figure out why Windoze sucks so bad. Anyways, thanks for reading this ramble and I’ll try to post something better later.

 

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Communication

Written by jamie on January 9th, 2009

I hate how it can be so hard to communicate with people you care so much about. Before anyone gets the wrong idea, I’m not talking about my husband. He and I have discovered healthy communication boundaries and are darn proud of it.  I’m talking about those other life relationships where those communication boundaries aren’t so well defined. It’s hard to know how to talk to them, especially when involving touchy subjects.

There are a couple of options here. One, bottle it all up and keep it to yourself. This works well to keep peace and to avoid conflict. It’s a tactic I’ve used often over the years. Unfortunately, I’ve discovered how well this does NOT work. As things bottle up, I grow defensive, and then defensiveness gives way to resentment. Resentment isn’t pretty. Combine that with PMS and it’s almost lethal.

So if bottling it up doesn’t work, it seems the only other option is to talk about it. The next question is how. How do you approach sensitive subjects without hurting the other person and yet still allowing the full extent of your feelings to be expressed? In Drew and I’s case, we deal with situations like this by simply being honest. Gentle, but honest. We don’t expect anything less from each other. I wish we could expect nothing less from others as well.

I suppose the only solution is to just dive on in and say what you need to say. The result may not be pretty, but you can’t worry about their response. I simply need to let that worry go and deal with what’s going on in my head, and be careful about what comes out of my mouth. If I’m honest and loving with them, I would hope that they would respond the same way. If they don’t, maybe they’re not who I thought they were. Or maybe I just need to give them a little time.

I think this is just all part of this messy thing called life.

 

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Christmas x2 and a New Year

Written by jamie on January 2nd, 2009

Christmas was extra special for me this year, because it was my first Christmas as a married woman. Many people came to Drew and I in the days leading to Christmas with cute little smiles on their faces and patted us on the back, saying in sing-songy voices, “Enjoy your first Christmas together!” Drew would always respond, “It’s not our first Christmas. We were together last Christmas.” So we decided it was our first “legal” Christmas together.

We spent Christmas morning lazily; sleeping in and eagerly opening our gifts to each other, and eating Cinnabon muffins. It was so nice. Then we had to run some errands (so sad on Christmas Day, but we needed to pick up our rental car that would take us to North Carolina the next day). After that we visited my family and exchanged gifts with them (my dad seemed excited about the laser putter we found for him) and then it was on to the Luger’s for dinner and another gift exchange. At the end of the day, it was great to return home, with my husband.

The day after Christmas, we started the LOOONG trek to North Carolina to visit Drew’s family. There, we had Christmas part 2. It was nice to spend some time with my new in laws, and I already feel so much a part of the family. Thanks Kocurs, for adopting me with open arms. You guys are awesome. I especially enjoyed the girl time I had with my new mom-in-law and sis-in-law. We went scrapbook shopping and then painted some figurines. My hand was cramped by the time I was done. I was glad to get to know my new sis better, as the only other time I had seen her was the wedding. (If YOU’D like to get to know her better, check out her blog.)

Now, Drew and I are back home trying to settle back in and recover from the holidays. On New Year’s Eve, we went down to St. Mark’s Lighthouse to revisit “the scene of the crime.” (He proposed there last New Year’s Eve.) Then we spent a quiet evening at home watching TV and waiting for midnight. Luckily, USA had a 24 hour marathon of Elf, so we watched that. That movie makes me happy. We switched to the New Year’s celebration a minute too late and missed the ball drop. Apparently we need to check our clocks. A quick smooch (though not technically at midnight…), and then it was time for bed. I guess we’re officially old and married.

So far, 2009 has been filled with cleaning. Drew and I are trying to make sense of the mess in our home, and I think we’re making headway. So with that, back to laundry.

 

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Merry Christmas

Written by jamie on December 25th, 2008

“Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is Christ the Lord.”
Luke 2:11

A very merry Christmas to you!

 

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