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Post Christmas blues

Tuesday, December 27th, 2011

I’ve been reading a writing blog by Jeff Goins lately. I highly recommend it. He’s got some great writing tips. Yesterday, he approached the topic of the post Christmas blues, something I deal with annually. He encouraged people to write about it, in order to process through the emotions. This is my effort to do that.

 

I am a Christmas junkie. I love the music, the lights, the feeling of utter peace on earth (except at the mall). Almost everything about the season makes me smile.

I remember as a child making the connection that it was not the gifts that was so cool about the season; it was everything leading up to that. It was the anticipation, the enjoyment of all the things surrounding the season that made me so happy. The week between Christmas and New Year’s was a week of conflicted emotions. January 1st was the saddest day of the year for me, because it was the day we had to take the Christmas decorations down. I hated that day and usually spent the whole time fighting back tears.

As an adult, I still struggle with those post Christmas blues. The days between Christmas and New Year’s are such a let down. The 24/7 holiday music station is back to regularly scheduled programming, stores tear down the holiday displays to make room for Valentine’s candy, and live Christmas trees lie discarded at the end of driveways. Whoa… what happened? Christmas is over, so let’s get rid of all signs of it?

Sometimes I feel guilt after Christmas because I didn’t adequately “enjoy” the season. I didn’t spend enough quiet time soaking in Christmas lights, I didn’t pull out all of my Christmas CDs to listen to, I didn’t bake a single batch of cookies. I want a do over. I’m so busy the whole month of December that I didn’t have enough time to soak in all the glories of my favorite holiday.

I’ve found I have to “wean myself off” Christmas. Though many people enjoy taking the time between Christmas and New Year’s to get all the Christmas stuff down and packed away, I enjoy having the tree up for a little bit longer. Basking in the glow of the tree is a way for me to relax, so I’m in no rush to take it down. While the rest of the world moves on and leaves Christmas in a pile of wrapping paper memories, I take some time to say goodbye.

As Christmas fades away and I try to get back to “normal” life, I remember all the other good things that life has. New Year’s brings a chance to work on and better myself and anticipate what the next year will bring. As I get myself out of my 24/7 Christmas music mode, I’m pleased to rediscover all those songs that I haven’t listened to for a month. I love how my body feels when it’s not gorging itself on whatever sweet crap is lying around. And I remind myself that the baby Jesus is growing up, and He needs to be worshipped too.

Post Christmas is sad and often a big let down, but life goes on, and it needs to be lived.

 

Christmas over… officially

Monday, January 10th, 2011

Since I am such a Christmas-aholic, taking down Christmas is one of my least favorite things to do. Growing up, New Year’s Day was my most disliked day of the year, because it was the day that everything Christmas was taken down, packed up, and put away. I’d mope around all day, because the house looked so barren.

When I became an adult, with a house of my own, I decided I wanted to keep my Christmas tree up until Epiphany. Drew agreed, knowing that sitting by the lit up Christmas tree made me so happy.

Now, even I will agree that those icicle lights hanging off my neighbor’s house in February is just plain tacky. I’m a little ashamed of the year that Drew and I left the tree up until February. When we were trying to decide whether to take it down or simply hang little hearts on it, I knew it was time. We didn’t leave it there intentionally. We simply got consumed by life and had no time to get the thing down. Good thing it was a fake tree. Since then, I’ve been determined to get the decorations down as close to Epiphany as possible.

I had every intention of getting the tree down this weekend. I swear. On Saturday, I was ready to break out the bins and the broom and get the living room tidied up. But then Drew found a car in Valdosta that was exactly what we were looking for (we’ve been looking to replace my car, as it’s been breaking apart little by little and I’m convinced it will implode at any moment). We decided to take a drive, loved the car, and ended up buying it. Yay for us, but that made for a late night, and by the time we got home, I didn’t have any energy to tackle the tree.

Sunday, we spent all day at a friend’s house for her “coming out” party. She is bravely tackling cancer, and undergoing chemo. When her hair began to fall out, she decided it was time to shave it all off. We all gathered and watched as she sat in the barber’s chair and let all her hair be shaved off with a huge smile on her face. We cheered her on, other friend’s shaved their heads in honor of her, and we laughed at the mohawks and other fun hairstyles that were created. We tried on wigs and hats and even blew off fireworks. Great day, but again, we didn’t get home until late.

To find this.

Our tree bit the dust. Drew almost tripped over it as we came in the door, commenting, “What the hell…” I looked at him and said, “We don’t even have a cat.”

Upon further investigation we discovered one of the snap on legs had simply snapped off. It decided it was done with it’s service for the year. And although it was late and I was tired, I set to taking the ornaments off and un-decorating the tree. Drew had to hold it up so I could get the lights off. Then he chucked it out the front door, proclaiming, “Piece of crap!”

Sadly, there was one casualty.

One of my treasured, handmade, porcelain ornaments from my Aunt Char was beheaded. This one is from 1985 and has hung on every tree since then. Luckily, it was a clean break, and I think with a little super glue, she’ll be good as new. I breathed a sigh of relief to see that the other porcelain ornaments had been hung on the side opposite of the fall, and were thus cushioned by fake pine tree limbs.

Luke Skywalker did fall out of his legs, but it appears that he slides right back in his boots. Drew was relieved.

So Christmas is officially packed up and put away… aside from the odds and ends I keep finding. I have a feeling I’ll be repacking the totes to make everything fit this weekend.

After the “trauma” from last night, I did get a good laugh last night as I revisited with these guys.

Merry CHRISTmas, please…

Sunday, December 26th, 2010

It seems that this year there has been more of a furor over the phrase “Happy Holidays.” Fox News runs stories about “The War On Christmas” and I’ve seen about fifty Facebook status updates with some variation of “It’s NOT Happy Holidays, it’s Merry CHRISTmas!” It was bad enough ten years ago with all the anger over the X in Xmas, which come to find out isn’t a controversy at all, just ignorance. But now some Christians feel the need to sternly correct the minimum-wage cashier at the grocery store who mumbles “Happy Holidays” as she hands over the receipt.

There may be a war on Christmas. I’m pretty sure some people are doing things to diminish Christ’s role. But how should we respond? Yell “It’s CHRISTMAS you &*#$^@#&!” at the top of our lungs? Should we just be nice? Should love and a smile be the take-home message that poor cashier receives or misplaced indignation?

The thing is, Saturnalia was celebrated hundreds of years before Christmas. Lots of other people have celebrated during the winter solstice long before Christians took over December for Christmas. Judaism, from which we have a much of the Christian tradition (btw Jesus was Jewish) celebrated Hanukkah long before Christ was born. If anything, instead of being miffed that people are stealing our holiday maybe we could be a little more humble in our reply of “Merry Christmas” and leave out the angst. Maybe we can give a gift of tenderness?

Another Christmas memory

Thursday, December 23rd, 2010

I have another Christmas memory that’s been on the forefront of my mind. I was hoping to post pictures with it, as I have them somewhere… but I’ll need to dig through my CDs to find them, and I don’t know if I’ll have time for that this close to Christmas. Perhaps during my week off I’ll have time to update it. In the meantime, I wanted to get the story out.

This one happened while on tour with the African Children’s Choir. I had been on tour with them for about a year and a half and was with my second choir. This group had been on tour for about five to six months. We were somewhere in Alabama, knee deep in fried chicken and all things southern. I was excited, because our next stop was Tallahassee, my home town, and I would be able to show off my kiddos to friends and family. I was in a host family with a single woman. She was sweet and so hospitable, as so many host families were. The first night we were with her, she fed us our obligatory snack, then asked if we minded if she went to bed, as she had already shown us where the bathroom and our bedrooms were. This might sound rude and not hospitable, but I always loved when host families did such things. After years of being doted on by so many, it was refreshing when they let us feel like we were just like family. Here’s the fridge, here’s the bathroom, help yourself, g’nite. I also enjoyed having alone time with my kids. That particular night, I sat with Winnie and Masika as we munched on potato chips or something of the sort. I remember having fun with them. As Winnie turned her head, I stole a potato chip. Masika giggled. Then, a minute later, Masika turned her head and I stole one of her chips. Winnie giggled. Both were ecstatic to be in on the private joke, having no idea they were also the butt of the same joke. I love kids.

The next evening, the host Auntie wanted to take us down the street to see some Christmas decorations. I was game, as I love looking at Christmas lights. The girls loved seeing all the bright lights in America and eagerly bundled up in their coats and gloves. We were accompanied by the host Auntie’s friend, a guy who I got along with immediately. He and I joked back and forth like we’d known each other for years.

We arrived at the house in question, and my jaw about dropped. This guy didn’t just cover his property in lights. No, he covered it in every cheesy Christmas collectible and animated figurine in existence. There were elves and snowmen and Santas. There was the dancing Santa who shook his hips. They were EVERYWHERE. I don’t think there was a square inch of his lawn left uncovered. My new friend stated, “Kind of makes all your ideas about Alabama come to life, doesn’t it?” I had to chuckle, as I thought of my stereotype of many Alabamans.

It was overkill, and I can’t imagine his electric bill. But it was entertaining to walk the length of his property and notice each little moving figurine. I wondered what happened when it rained, as most of the decorations seemed to be inside decorations. The girls were completely in awe and were pretty much speechless the entire time. I couldn’t help but wonder what was going through their sweet little heads. My family is starving, and this guy can afford to cover his lawn in this crap? Honestly, I doubt that even approached their mind. They just enjoyed the decorations and smiled.

We got to the end of the property, and almost missed what was tucked back by the house, near the driveway. A plastic manger scene stood, the one with Mary, Joseph and Jesus that you see on so many lawns across America. I was about to walk right by it when the girls got really excited and pointed it out to me. “Look Auntie! It is Jesus!”

We walked back to the beginning and the girls asked if we could look at it all one more time. We decided one more lap would be fine. There was so much activity on their lawn we probably missed something the first go around. We leisurely walked his property again and the girls commented on more this time, laughing at the dancing Santa and listening to the cheesy music that played with some of the decorations. When we arrived by the manger scene again, the girls looked up at me wide eyed. “Auntie, may we get closer?” I hesitated, as the scene was close to their house and on their property. I’m a stickler for being respectful of people’s property. But those big, wide eyes won and I let them get closer. As they approached plastic Mary, Joseph, and baby Jesus, they kneeled down to see them better. And they stayed there for a moment. In the midst of all the music, noise and bright lights of the surrounding decorations, they kneeled and admired the manger.

After a few moments, they broke away and we walked back to the house. I smiled as I was wowed yet again by the faith and love of my little kiddos.